People talk about “communication” a lot, but how does one even start?
We were chatting at Poly Cocktails the other day and I mentioned I had found this tool. The people I was talking to asked me to share it.
The hosts over at the Multiamory podcast have adapted a scrum tool — and tested it for over a year — so you don’t have to!
The system works really well! I am currently using it with both of my partners and it is hugely helpful.
I am including the PDF here. I strongly suggest you listen to the episode — it has lots of tips in it.
- Don’t try to communicate if you are HALTD – Horny, Hungry, Lonely (you haven’t seen that partner in ages) Tired or Depressed
- Do the RADAR even if you communicate all the time. We have very open lines of communication and we are always surprised at what emerges. It’s very powerful.
- Don’t “keep stuff for the RADAR”. Keep communicating as much as you do. Else the RADAR goes from a check-in to a very loaded conversation. Nobody wants that.
Here is the PDF. Click on the link. Multiamory+RADAR+Template
See you in August!